On male chastity

If you had asked me a few years ago what I thought about male chastity I would have had little to say on the topic. It seemed alien to me and something that I very much doubted I would ever have any involvement with. All I knew about it was some men liked to be told when they could have sexual gratification and that it appeared in general to be the territory of pro-Dommes or the stuff of fantasy. I didn't know anyone who practised it, or at least I had no knowledge of it, and all I knew of it was a few forum posts on kink sites from men desperately seeking a keyholding partner.

Then along came my boy. In our discussion about what things he'd like to try the topic of chastity came up and I was  at a bit of loss as to how to best deal with it. Of course I understood the general principles and how it would be attractive to a submissive, but what benefits were there in it for the other partner? Having never had a male sub before I hadn't come across this before and found that putting myself in his shoes I just couldn't understand the attraction. Being a female of relatively low sex drive compared to the average man I saw the prospect of being denied sex for a length of time being a little tedious and pointless, but in the name of experimentation I did agree to giving it a try.

We started simply. in the beginning of our relationship we were not living together and would often only see each other once or twice a week, so between these times it was agreed that my boy was not allowed to masturbate or otherwise seek to gain sexual gratification when I was not present. He did his best of course, but often on meeting up again I would hear confessions of moments of weakness and self gratification which made the whole exercise feel a little pointless. He was not doing it to try and prompt me into some kind of punishment (in general I did not issue any) and he himself felt that it just wasn't working out how he had imagined. The experiment lapsed and the topic of chastity did not appear again for some months.

At Christmas time we agreed to get each other a kink present as well as a normal one. I did some reading and research and decided we should give chastity another go, and so purchased a CB6000 for him. For the uninitiated this is a plastic cage device that slips over the penis and is secured by a ring behind the testes with the whole unit being locked into place with a padlock. Once on it is impossible to achieve an erection, nor is it possible for the wearer to remove it without the key. Given that we hadn't discussed this beforehand he was rather surprised at his gift that year and was very keen to try it out. Our first experiment was over New Year.

We only lasted a few days. Teething troubles with the cage meant I was not happy for it to continue. Now, most men would be glad to say this, but the cage was a little too small to go on comfortably. If I was present at all it created too much excitement to get it on at all. Instead I had to send my boy away to assemble it himself and return to me with the key. Of course, it isn't supposed to be comfortable all the time, but it seemed to pinch and sit awkwardly most of the day. It did carry out its primary purpose of preventing any erection and once on was not going to come off in a hurry! When trying to remove the cage it needed a good stiff pull to get it free and where the slits in the cage were to let air circulate there had been scratches to the skin which I was most unhappy with. Fortunately my resourceful boy spent some time filing pieces here and there to get a better fit and stop the pinching and improved on the design a little. He's wonderfully helpful in his own torment! Unfortunately though it was some time before we next used it properly, which I shall go into in more detail next time.