The first post

Hello world!

I decided to start keeping this blog as a personal exercise in reflection on the ups and downs of being a dominant female in a loving relationship with a male submissive. Whilst I am by no means new to the concept of a BDSM relationship it has been a new experience to have a submissive male partner who has challenged my outlook and introduced me to new experiences I never would have thought I would enjoy. We never stop learning, and reflection on events is the best way I find to do this. Of course the nature of my thoughts may be of interest to others out there and I welcome their thoughts in return. I make no claims to be perfect, and I am very sure there is much I have still to learn.

The identities of those involved will be altered for several reasons. I have no reason to hide and have always been happy with my sexuality, but intimate details are best anonymised in case friends and family should happen across this blog. I may be comfortable with my choices in life, but I would not want to make anyone feel awkward with "too much information".

So, a little about me. I am in my late twenties and live in a large city in the UK. I enjoy a slim figure and tall stature that has always been attractive to the opposite sex. I have been involved in several BDSM relationships, both as Domme and sub, and have learned much from each experience. I am happily involved with my boy who shares my life, my bed and my kinks. Our dynamic is varied and always evolving, but I have only now been introduced to the fascinating world of having a male submissive as a partner. My previous experience of Domination has been exclusively towards women until now. We are primarily partners and are not 24/7 lifestyle types and mutually respect each other's autonomy, but choose sometimes to restrict certain rights and pleasures for our own stimulation and satisfaction.

And my boy? He's also late twenties and lives with me. He is shorter than I am, well built and never ceases to impress me with his caring and gentle nature. He is by no means submissive in his daily life and that is reserved just for me. I am his first Dominant partner although he has known of his submissive side for many years and has chosen me as the person to open up to about it. He has many ideas of what he would like to try, and it is my job to help him explore these and find what works for us.

There is no right and wrong way to go about BDSM. It's what works for the people involved that matters.